Pacifier Free

It's official, Little Lucas is finally free from Pacifier. He kicked the habit without too much fuss.

It all happened during the so-not-common Little Lucas & Daddy time. (I was away for an interview). And somehow the pacifier got lost along the way and we didn't know where it was.

As we have the bad habit of giving Little Lucas his pacifier and Bao Bao (nickname for his little pillow) while in the car, he keeps asking for it when we were on our way to Marina Barrage for Kite Flying. I just kept repeating myself to him, 'it's gone remember, you misplace it just now and we could not find it.'

Initially I wanted to give him the extra pacifier that I kept at home, but I thought why not use this opportunity to help him kick the habit.
So that night I didn't offer him the pacifier and I told him it's gone for good and he is not going to have it back. He managed to get to sleep after a while .. though a little longer than usual.

It's almost close to a month and he did not get to see his dearest pacifier again.
Though at times he still ask for it, but when we told him it's gone, he will be settled.

In case you are wondering if Little Lucas sleeps in a cradle and yes he does. He sleeps in that when he is at my mum's place. We don't have one at home and so he sleeps on the bed with us.
So Little Lucas was brought up as a 'versatile' boy who can sleep both on bed & in the cradle.
I have to thank hubby for this as he was the one who didn't want to buy a cradle for our home.

Finally the Long Search has come to an end

After 3 months of searching, with over 100 applications sent, attended 10 interviews, I finally landed on a job of my choice.
At long last, I can stop browsing through the openings on JobsDB & Jobstreet. Tell you, it's not easy to search through jobs listing when there's almost about 100 openings advertise (both old and new) everyday.

With the job searching or even from my prior searching when I just got married, I learnt alot about how the potential employers thinks about us, the working mummies.

Interviewer: So when did you get married, any plans for kids (tell me will you get pregnant within 1 yr after we employ you)
Me: No, not so soon, no concrete plans yet.
Interviewer: I see.. but you never know. (hey.. accidents do happen!! Be careful!)

Interviewer: So how many kids do you have?
Me: 1
Interviewer: Who is taking care? (Better be your parents or in laws.. childcare means you cannot work OT)
Me: My mum.
Interviewer: That's good. (Can do lots of OT)

Interviewer: So are you prepare to work late or long hours given that you have a kid?
Me: Yes, mentally I am prepare. I feel that I was there for him for the past 2 years so now it's time for me to be more focus on my job and develop my career.
Interviewer: So you mean now you don't see the need to spend more time with your kid?
Me: Erh.. of course not, but I think it's time for him to get independent (is this what you like to hear???)

Interviewer: Any plans for the 2nd one? (tell me will you get pregnant within 1 yr after we employ you) (See it happens again even after you had 1 kid)
Me: No. (Very firm no)
Interviewer: Sure? Why not? (good, means no maternity leave in near future)

I find that potential employer out there are only looking for people with no family commitments. They simply need someone who can devote 100% of their energy to work (in lay man's term.. slog for the company).
Working mummies seems to be at a very disadvantage when it comes to this area.
So much for the government campaign of getting mummies to be back into the workforce..BOO!!!
Of course, mummies can always apply to work in statutory boards and government bodies which typically have small job scope and slower pace. Their working style and culture are a lot more different from the MNC which I used to work with.

But of course, down the road you will definitely meet someone who can form a good rapport with you and come in terms of your mindset & mentality and offer you a job.
Yes, that happens to me and I hope it's for real!!